Wednesday, 6 February 2008


I enjoyed this wee post from the MOPS group and thought I would share it here.

Mother Moment - In the Cocoon
Our homes are like cocoons. We as parents spin a layer of protection around our children and provide a place where they can grow up in safety and security with a measure of naivety and innocence. Like snuggling in a sleeping bag - warm and cosy. We turn off the television and the graphic images of violence and smut. We censor the music and books that come into the house. We vet their friends and who they spend time with. We will do what is in our power to provide a wonderful childhood for our littlies.

Our homes, like cocoons, also are places of adventure and preparation. We stimulate our children's interests to learning new things. We create safe environments in which they can experience trying and failing and trying again, and we also prepare our children for the change of growing up, older, and wiser. From the time they leave our wombs, there's a 'planned obsolescence' thing going on. We start 'letting go' tiny bit by bit over the 18-plus years they depend on us in varying degrees. We eventually let our butterflies go and live their own life, knowing that we have done our best with the information and resources we had at the time.

In your cocoon, Pray. Pray, Pray. Surrender your children to God. Know that you don't parent alone. God enables us to do what he requires. Live giving hope and affirmation. Foster responsibility. Listen to your children and take them seriously. Enjoy, and have fun together.

The time in the cocoon IS short.

My emotions have been up and down about homeschooling already. Come to think of it, my emotions about have been up and down about mothering. I've been having self-doubts; you know, "Am I serving our children, Rob, God properly?" I look at my surroundings and sometimes I can feel quite positive and other times, like now, I feel they need/deserve better. The hurdles Rob and I have overcome in the past five or six years have been huge and although they tested my relationship with Rob, we have come through the other side. However, the thing about character-building experiences is that they leave scars no one else can see except oneself. The types of scars they give you play heavily with your emotional being - in other words they give you plenty of self-doubt. Regaining confidence is a hard one, basically it requires daily effort and this morning just happens to be one of those "I don't feel confident about anything" days. Hopefully my morning coffee will do the trick. I usually perk up after a coffee, so let's try to think of our day ahead and think positive.

My home is my cocoon, and I feel safe in my cocoon.

Thanks for dropping by
ka kite

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